Popular Nigerian filmmaker Jade Osiberu has advised against telling a spouse they were never one's ideal type, warning that such comments can be damaging to a relationship.

In a post on X (formerly Twitter), she noted that many people in strong marriages did not marry their childhood physical preferences.

Osiberu explained that for many in her generation, the "spec" was often shaped by music video vixens with eurocentric features and exaggerated figures.

However, she argued that these ideals are inadequate when it comes to choosing a life partner. She described it as foolishness to communicate such preferences to a partner, suggesting that the idea of the spec itself was simply a young person's lack of wisdom.

She wrote:
"I know a number of people who didn't marry their 'spec' but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video 'vixens' from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with 'coke bottle figures' and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it's time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that 'spec' is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that's understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn't measure up to their 'spec' instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy's lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner."