These 17 actions can bring delight into your relationship once again, and make your sweetheart feel how much you truly adore her.

1. Play with her hair
Women are actually like very large cats. Playing with her hair will immediately cause her to internally start purring. (Note: If your lady has naturally curly hair, do NOT do this without first asking permission.)

2. Kiss in public
Little kisses on the train or at the grocery store are sweet reminders you are proud to be with her. They also take you back to the beginning days of your relationship when a simple kiss was enough to make your head spin.

3. Bring up past conversations
Linking previous conversations into current ones shows her that when she talks, you’re not mindlessly thumbing through Instagram – you’re attentive enough to what she is saying that you’ll remember it later on. Remember her likes and dislikes and work those into the conversation as well.

4. Run away from p****graphy
There is no better way to destroy your wife’s confidence than looking at s*xual images of other women. Show her she is enough by choosing to be committed only to her – even in your thoughts.

5. Make an effort to love her family
Her mother may be critical, her brother a major moocher and her uncle that awkward guy at the reunions that tells off-color jokes, but if she loves them, you should to. Make an effort to participate in family events she would like to be at … no matter how much you may dislike them.

6. Whisper in her ear at a party
Whisper a little compliment, inside joke or flirty remark to her when you’re in public. Those innocent shared secrets make her feel connected to you.

7. Take care of her
She may be a strong, independent woman, but be man enough to show her you love her enough to take care of her when she needs it. In turn, she’ll want to take care of you at your weakest moments as well.

8. Push her to follow her dreams
When it comes to dreams, jumping in to do it can be terrifying. Know her dreams, and tell her she can achieve them. Give her the confidence she needs to be who she wants to be.

9. Don’t buy that video game
Money disagreements are the third largest cause of divorce, according to the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts. Sometimes not buying that toy you’ve wanted for so long because you can’t totally afford it says “I love you” more than anything else. Living within your budget is the most practical type of love.

10. Pause to make time
Your busy schedule is hard to navigate, but try foregoing something important one evening to demonstrate she is still the No. 1 priority on your list.

11. Don’t ask permission
There are times when she doesn’t want to choose the date, the restaurant or her birthday gift. Don’t worry so much about her liking it, and just surprise her. It’s the little surprises that keep love lively.

12. Just simply say it
The three words we should say a lot more than we actually do; a well placed, “Sweetheart, I love you,” is always welcome.

13. … or write it
There may be no quicker way to a woman’s heart than a hand-written note slipped into her purse or pocket.

14. Do the dishes
Do them, and watch the magic happen.
15. Lead in important conversations
Your lady doesn’t want to be your babysitter, and by initiating important conversations about your relationship, your finances, your children and other concerns allows her to not have to feel that way. Help her be your lover, not your mother.

16. Be on time
Or better yet, be early. If you have plans together, make them a priority. Being on time or early shows her you are excited to spend time with her.

17. Appreciate her getting ready
On the reverse, you’ll surely be waiting on your lady at some point as she is getting ready and will only be “five more minutes.” Have patience, and appreciate that sometimes looking stunning actually takes some time.

18. Initiate texts
Send her a text during the day, just to show her she is on your mind.

19. Give specific compliments
How long has it been since you told her she was beautiful? How much you love your life with her? How much you admire her ability to make others feel better about themselves? Don’t make her assume these things; tell her often.