The key to making a man want you all to himself is to be the woman who loves him, but doesn’t need him. When he senses that he’s very lucky to have you, he’ll be motivated to seal the deal before another guy gets in there first.

Rather than having “the talk” or giving him ultimatums, wouldn’t it be great if you could create that feeling so that he is the one asking you for a commitment? You can if you practice these simple steps:

1. DON’T keep bringing up the “commitment” discussion.

When you feel anxious or worried about where your relationship is headed, it’s hard to resist wanting to know what he’s thinking.

But constantly trying to talk to him about commitment feels stressful to him and will only make him dig in his heels and retreat — even if he was on the verge of committing all on his own.

So, no matter how much you’re dying to know what he’s thinking, resist the temptation to bring up this tender topic.

2. DON’T try convincing him.
The more you try to make a case for how great you are as a couple, the more he feels cornered and manipulated. Your reasoning feels like criticism to him and makes him unable to share his true feelings.

3. DO share your good feelings with him.
When you feel good with a man, let him know! By opening up and sharing your feelings, you allow him to connect to you and the positive experience you are sharing. It makes him feel good that he makes you feel good, and he’ll want more of that good stuff.

4. DO say what you want for the future — with or without him.

Instead of trying to convince him to commit, share your dreams and what you want for your future. For example: “I don’t want to put pressure on the relationship. I don’t want to try to convince you, or rush you. It feels good to be with you, but I know I want to have a family someday. What do you think?”

5. DO keep your options open.
Dating is a time for you to find out what you really want in a relationship. You can’t do this if you close yourself off to other men before you have the commitment you desire.