Suitors back away from you and boyfriends fall out of love with you because a relationship with you is neurotic, difficult and emotional draining. Your underlying problem is:

1. You're afraid a man might reject or leave you.
2. You're afraid to be authentic and vulnerable.
3. You're afraid to trust a man because he might hurt you.

4. You afraid a man won't want you because you're a middle-aged woman.

5. You allow men in your life who are non-communicating, non-committal and abusive.