City Flame | 13 August 2007 14:03 CET

ME, MY MAN AND STARDOM-----KEHINDE BANKOLE

Kehinde Bankole is one of the lead actresses in the ongoing Super Story, Everything it takes. And the young girl is fast becoming sought-after.

A graduate of Mass Communication from Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ago-Iwoye, Ogun State, Kenny (as she is fondly called), is having a wonderful time as an actress.

This is not the first time Kenny is facing the camera. She has played lead roles in other series of the soap.

She told Spectacles, “This should be the fourth time I am featuring in Super Story. The camera is not really strange to me. Since I started, I have been playing major roles in Super Story.”

Kenny said the experience had impacted positively on her life.

“I learnt how to tolerate people because we were all together on location. I learnt to understand other people's views, and I learnt to work with other people. There was no problem at all working with them. I have discovered that it is even better when the whole attention is not solely on you; it makes things more interesting.”

But the damsel said the experience had been very tedious as well. “We have to combine the other things we are doing in our normal lives, with acting. It makes it a bit tough, but it is okay. I am not complaining.”

Kenny revealed that she had been embarrassed a number of times because of the roles she played in the movies. She gave an instance.

“I was at a friend's birthday bash, I was eating and then this woman came and hit me from behind. She shouted, 'Caro! What you did to that man wasn't good at all!'

“She was still hitting me. Because she was an elderly woman, I couldn't say anything. I tried to tell her to take it easy, but she was still hitting me. People were just looking at me. It took a while before they realised that the woman meant the role I played in a movie.”

The actress acknowledged that she has a boyfriend, but chose not to disclose his identity.

She said she would not ignore her man because she is getting attention from the public and fans. And her boyfriend, according to her, does not feel threatened in any way. He's taking her celebrity status in good faith.

Kenny explained, “The truth of the matter is, no guy feels threatened except when the girl wants it that way. It is not what the people outside do that threatens the guy, it is how the lady herself handles the whole matter.

“For instance, you are in public and you are holding your boyfriend; people start waving at you and one hand is not enough for you to wave back, so you let go of his hand and you even forget that he is there. He will start feeling like a fool. At that time, he is not useful. Then when you are done with waving, you take his hand again. It is not right. He would feel like the 'Mrs,' while you are the 'Mr.' You should remember that he is there with you.”

She said she always held unto her man each time they attended a public function.

“I hold on to him while acknowledging my fans. If anybody asks me any question, I look at him before I answer. If he wants me to answer, I go ahead; otherwise I keep mute. So, he is not feeling bad. I carry him along.”

On why many artistes don't make good spouses, Kenny said, “Let's be realistic, this job is demanding. It is time-consuming to the extent that if you don't have a partner who is doing something to bring in money into the home, and you are the one who has to go out all the time, you would seem not to be a good partner. If he is making some money, you can reject some jobs so that you would have some time to spend with your family.

“Then again, this is an industry where there are many single men and women. This an industry where you spend much time away from your family. It is easy to get intimate with some other person and forget where you are coming from. When the location is over, you remember you have a family and there is somebody waiting for you at home. That is why most of them end up having another affair. They can't really be functional at home because they are never at home.”

Kenny went ahead to advise her colleagues

“Basically, this is an industry where there is a very high level of social rapport and relationship. I would advise the spouses to keep in touch with their partners when they are on location. Call them and ask them how the day went, so that they don't feel lonely.”

Still on her boyfriend, Kenny does not know if she would end up marrying him, but she does not see herself dating another person for now.

“I don't know if I will marry him, only God knows. But I don't have a problem with my relationship, I am happy. If it is working out, we will work it out. But if it is not working out, we'll leave it and go to a place that it will work out for us. It does not have to be a do-or-die thing. If I have cause to move on, I will move on; but if I don't have any cause to move on, I will stay.”

As much as she does not really know where her current relationship is taking her, one thing Kenny knows is that she will not marry an actor.

She said, “I don't think I will marry an actor. But when I get to that river, I will cross it. It depends on how good that person is. Right now, I don't think I can marry one. I will be busy, he will be busy, who will take care of the children? I can marry a producer who works at home.”

No matter who she ends up marrying, one thing is sure, Kenny will not quit her profession.

She said, “Nothing or nobody can make me quit my job. It is only God that can make me quit. Marriage can not make me quit acting. This is my career. How can you tell me to stop doing what I love? I can quit if I choose to. But it won't be fair for a man to tell me to quit. This is my life.”

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