Nollywood Blogs | 17 September 2011 17:28 CET

What would you do if you discover that your wife gave you another man’s child?

By Vivian Onyebukwa, Rachael Agunta and Anthony Obi

Marriage is based on trust and faithfulness, among other things. However, there are situations when a woman betrays the trust reposed in her by her husband by having a child or children from a man other than her husband, while she still lives with her husband. If you are a man and finds yourself in such a situation where you discovered that your wife gave you another man's child, what would you do?

Okechukwu Moses

If my wife on a good day tells me that the child that had grown under my custody as a son is now another man's son, to be frank here, it will be devastating. Not that it is another man's son but that she has been cheating on me for so long without my knowledge. What a world that you can not even trust your own wife!

But, I think I will not kill myself or her but, she can no longer live with me if I don't get a better explanation on that act.

Afeez Abiodun

She will take the child back to the father and never in her life come back to me. That is the end of the marriage.

James C. Prince

As long as I am not impotent, I will quit the marriage because she has death me a terrible blow, and even a disgrace in my family. She is a heartless woman. She must go.

Ndidi Otor

If you are healthy enough as a man, no man will impregnate your wife. But if your wife suddenly tells you that you are not the father of the child or children, then you need not to fight. All you need do is to let go because if you take such children, you are importing criminals into your family. That may dent the image of a family that does not have lineage. I believe women know who impregnates them and those children are the type that grow up and start fighting their father.

Ignatus Anozie

My wife can not tell me that our children are not mine because there is record for every childbirth in the hospital whose paternity is linked to me. If I find out that they are not my children, I will not take in another man's blood. They will go.

David Ethel

Thank God for technology and the fact that we are in modern world. What I will do is to take the baby for DNA test to ascertain if it is true he or she is not my blood. If the result proves the child is not mine, then I will let go of the child.

Fidelis Opia

The fact that the woman has not been sincere to me will make me drive her out of my house. She will also have to take the children to their biological father. The only reason I will accommodate her and the child is if I know about it.

Mohammed Atanda

I will tell her to take the baby to the biological father. When a woman tells you such, you need not to argue because she knows who impregnates her.

Matthew Obani

If a woman married for a very long time could keep such a secret from you after you might have finished training the children, she will have to go away with them, but it will be very hurting to realise such revelation.

Charles Ekeonu

I will not let the child know of my findings. It will be difficult for me to bear, but I would not at the same time, hurt the little baby who has known and loved me as his or her father. However, I will punish my wife severely in such a way that she would not even have the courage to tell anybody what she is passing through. I won't send her away but I cannot laugh at it.

Peter Ike

It is a diffiuclt situation. If it happens to me, I will travel and stay for two days to ease off the pain and shock. When I come back, I will wake her up at the dead of the night and demand an explanation to that. If she accepts that I am not the father, I will ask her what she wants us to do. It is from her response that I will know the next step to take. Per adventure, nobody is claiming the child, I will still accept the child but my wife can never regain my trust.

Jideofor Micheal

It is a very simple thing. I will take the child for a DNA test to be sure of the paternity. If it turns out to be true, I will ask her to leave me for a while depending on when I am able to overcome the shock.

Uche Ezennia

I pray that such a thing does not happen to me, because I will not continue to live in the same house with such a woman. But if she was the one that confessed that to me, I will forgive her, but it will take me time. I will also deny her sex and care for sometime and will not eat her food too.

Abiodun Oyin

To be frank, I will take the child for a DNA test. After my findings, the child will go to the father. If she has not had another child for me, I will divorce her because that is infidelity and the Bible permits divorce on marital unfaithfulness.
Sampson Ajuo

I will handle such a matter with care. It is enough to ruin a child's destiny. So, I will not be in a hurry to take a decision concerning on such a case.

Grace Abuche

Hillary Clinton received global applause and became a trailblazer among women when she stood by Clinton in the Monica Lewinsky scandal. It's difficult for every woman, but I will rather follow in Hillary's footsteps.

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