Touch Of Thoughts | 5 September 2011 21:15 CET

7 ways you can benefit from a break up

By Bola Dauda

Breakups are dreadful but at the same time they can motivate us to do things we never attempted to do. Here are 7 ways to benefit from a breakup

Redirect your negative energy

Trade male bashing for some sweat, according to Dr. John Trent exercise is therapeutic on different levels and even simple things like walking or running are positive ways to deal with emotions. Even though you might not want to get off your couch or leave your room, you will feel better once you do. and also look hotter and fitter than ever before.

Take time for extreme self care

A lot of people tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, rid yourself of phrases that circumvent your thought for example “i should have left him earlier”, and surround yourself with people that love you. Never worry about what others think, make the best decision for yourself.

Listen to yourself

One of the most common problems women have after breakups is not putting themselves first. to resolve this unsettling feeling begin a journal, write down the thoughts that your former part never listened to allow yourself to focus on them it could be restorative. Learn to say “yes” when things are good for you and “no” when they are bad.

Treat yourself like a knight in shinning armor would

If you can't treat yourself with love and affection, how will someone else? Buy yourself gifts for special occasions, pamper yourself at a spa or plan a fun weekend getaway.

Plan and conquer

Not setting our own schedules is something that happens in most breakups, it may be difficult but you emotionally so choose a goal at a time and work towards it. for example to make it through the day, travel or better yet get a masters degree. Reward yourself for accomplishing goals.

Take time to grieve and start with a clean slate

People heal at different paces, allow yourself to feel cry, clear up things that remind you of your past relationship. Don't get involved in a new relationship too quickly, it may transfer feelings from your old one to a new one, instead take time with your friends to get rid of the loneliness feeling.

Rediscover yourself

Relationship are often filled with a lot of compromises. Create a vision board by cutting out picture and words from magazines that are meaningful to you in a relationship, or print your own and paste the on a poster board this constant visual reminder will fill your mind with positive energy and remind you of what can be achieved every day.

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