Privacy is about something personal that is not allowed for public consumption or usage. People have different things that are personal to them and from which others are restricted.

I believe there is nothing as private to a woman as her private part. But we now call it our private part just because that is the name it is known for. How many of us can boast of its privacy? How many men do you allow into your private place on a daily/weekly basis?

What triggered the desire to write this? Just yesterday, on a friend's Facebook page, there was a serious argument on the introduction and promotion of vaginal tightening cream and spray to Nigerian women. I am happy because, at the end of the very long argument, we all agreed that it is not in favour of humanity.

We live in such a time when promiscuity has become the in-thing, while decency is now looked at as hypocrisy and timidity. Manufacturers are not helping matters as they keep bringing into the market, products that are against nature. But one thing I am happy about is that no matter how much you try to fake it, artificial can never become natural.

I thank God for this inspiration that came from my friend's wall. She is a woman I have so much regard for; Tessy, I salute your courage and intelligence. She raised a question on the effectiveness of the numerous brands of vaginal tightening cream advertised on the pages of City People and Encomium Weekly magazines. There is this sudden craze for vaginal tightening by women and penis elongation by men, but all, to me, is deception.

Some of my friends came up with the argument that it is a matter of choice and their patrons shouldn't be condemned, but I tried to let them know that we were not trying to condemn anyone, but evil shouldn't be encouraged. If you look at this issue very well, you will agree with me that the negative effects of these vaginal tightening far outweigh the positive effects (if there is any).

I want us to look at the two major effects of the introduction of vaginal tightening creams into the Nigerian market:

High rate of infidelity: Infidelity is not a new word in our society. It started from the time of our forefathers with men fathering children from different women. Women were taught to live and walk in decency if they must enjoy their body.

But today, there is so much deception in our society to the point that girls now believe they can live any kind of life and sleep with five men every night only to appear decent with some kind of cream, drops and sprays. But I am happy with what some of my male friends said that “once you are disvirgined and your vagina is widened by the different sizes of penis entering you, there is no solution.”

I just pity the men who have suddenly and foolishly become toys in the hands of small girls to play with. You can go ahead with the different men you sleep with, but a time will come when those vaginal soaps and creams won't do any magic.

I wish the Nigerian government can look into the deceitful advertisements we have on the pages of soft-sell magazines. What is the Ministry of Health doing about all these madness? One illiterate comes up and starts making noise about some lies. Almost every building on Allen Avenue and Awolowo Way, Ikeja, now has one small shop where girls go to protect themselves.

They no longer advertise other products as much as they do sexual products. I agree with you that a good sexual life is necessary for couples to be together, but the most surprising thing here is that it is even our young girls who now go for this vaginal tightening craze. And even in the midst of all the tightening, men are becoming more unfaithful.

Dryness: I don't know why even the so-called educated women fall easily for devilish lies. Can't you learn to make research and know the effects of whatever action you want to take? Must you always flow with the crowd? It is time Nigerian women learn to use Blackberry and mini-laptops for reasonable things and not just Facebook and Twitter chats.

All those vaginal tightening creams are what will make you age early down there. You keep running for lubricants each time you want to have sex and with time, your man loses interest in you even after you must have spent so much to satisfy him.

My dear, those vaginal tightening creams and sprays, just like vaginal douching, strips you of the natural vaginal lubrication God has blessed you with, while leaving you susceptible to infection and diseases.

Like I said earlier, we have people and different NGOs all over, calling for support and doing their best to create awareness on the spread of cancer. All I can tell you is go ahead with all the creams and sprays and vaginal tablets, but please know that I will not be a part of the people who will donate for your own cancer treatment and that there is effective law protecting consumers in Nigeria. Aside cancer, when your vagina is dry, there will be constant itching.

You are living your life and according to you, enjoying it to the fullest. But soonest, you will end up in tears except you make a change.

Just last week, a friend in Abuja told me a story about one of the girlfriends of an ex-vice president who enjoys anal sex and has destroyed lives of beauty queens and currently having a good time with a Nollywood star.

This pretty girl who has made so much money from this ex-VP. In fact, she has a house in Asokoro, travels whenever she likes and has almost N1 billion in her account, but now lives in misery.

However, she confessed lately that all is vanity adding that she gave out her body, her anus to a man, who is nothing but a beast. Now, not even her money can save her vaginal muscles that were destroyed. All the young guys coming to this attractive girl for marriage run away the moment they sleep with her and feel her muscles.

Girl, you can take all the vaginal tightening drugs in the world, but they won't save you. The most painful aspect of this story is that her own father even encouraged her to go on with the ex-VP because he built a house for him in the village and Enugu, bought him a brand new Toyota Landcruiser car and has him on his pay roll.

I am sure you want to know the tips for good, healthy vaginals. Keep a date with me next week because I am going to give you the information you need.

A lot of women are having problems in their relationships because they cannot take proper care of their private parts. I will give you some hints on how to combat that foul smell that oozes out whenever the man tries to have sex with you. This is causing a lot of problems in our homes to the point that I now have men sending text messages and e-mails asking for solution to this.

You may think you know it all, but I will leave you to judge by yourself after next week.

For now, the best way to keep your vaginal muscles is decency as I promise to give you more tips next week. It is your private part, please keep it private.